Don't rush into commitment before understanding what you truly want
I began to view dating differently. Instead of focusing on whether someone liked me, I saw myself as the employer and the other person as the candidate interviewing for a position in my life. In the same way a judge evaluates competitors before awarding a prize, I started evaluating whether someone truly aligned with my values, goals, and the life I wanted to build.
Dating taught me to pay attention to the different mannerisms these guys had, how they carried themselves, how they spoke, their goals, and their beliefs. Everything!
The more I encountered different personalities, the more it became easier to check my list of what I wanted and didn't want.
Dating has taught me:
To set boundaries and stand firm in them.
To pay attention to the details—not just what someone says, but how they speak, their habits, the company they keep, and how they spend their time.
If something isn't working, communicate it honestly and remove yourself gracefully and respectfully.
To be clear about what I want and don't want. It's okay if your desires and goals differ from someone else's.
If a relationship ends, accept it for what it was. Not every ending is meant to be revisited, and sometimes things don't work out for a reason.
The importance of finding someone who shares a similar mindset, values, and vision for the future.
That compatibility is just as important as chemistry.
That the right relationship should bring peace, not constant confusion.
Every experience taught me something valuable about relationships.
I’m now able to articulate and define more of what I’m looking for as I encounter new connections.
Despite how exhausting dating can feel and how harsh today's dating culture has become, we can't allow past disappointments to close us off from future possibilities. Every new connection deserves the chance to be viewed through a fresh lens. At its best, dating is about two people growing together, supporting one another, and filling each other's cups.
Read more on signs to watch for in relationships: (14 unhealthy signs)
Closing Message:
Dating is trial and error but don't give up on yourself and stay open minded. It’s ok to do what works for you. Take your time.
𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞,
𝒦.