Society can pressure people to compare themselves to others and conform to the “ordinary” American life, getting married by a certain age, buying a house, and having kids by thirty..
But you can’t put a deadline date to something real. It must come naturally.
Some get married young, some get married, and others choose not to but despite the timeframe or differences we choose, what’s important is finding the right person.
I like my dating life and have grown to like it a little more each time. You can learn so much about yourself.
Self-discovery will reveal who we are, what we like and dislike, and all our imperfections.
I respect the model Lori Harvey, for her quickness to move on if something doesn’t suit her. When it comes to dating, enjoying and learning in your twenties is expected and staying where you don’t want to be would be injustice.
“I almost got married very young so I think after that it made me be like, I felt I hadn’t really experienced anything, I didn’t really know myself. I didn’t really know what I liked, what I didn’t like. I feel like I hadn’t really experienced life.” - Lori Harvey
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I once related deeply to Lori Harvey and the words she shared during her interview on Steve Harvey. At twenty-four, I could’ve committed to a guy I met during college, but I knew marriage would have limited my opportunities to experience life and meet new people. I wasn’t ready to settle down or commit to one person, especially someone I didn’t truly see a future with. Despite the plans and expectations at the time, I wanted to be single, grow on my own, and explore new relationships.
So I did exactly that, and I don’t regret it at all.
What’s special about dating?
You’ll meet certain individuals who will bring certain matters to light and perspective. Some good and some bad. Dating is trial and error, it is an adventure of lessons.
Despite the hassle of dating, I would encourage single people to still meet new people because you never know where a midnight store run can take you, or perhaps where a gym conversation can lead.
Explore your curiosities and what-ifs.
Have fun with it.
When you pay attention to the details and the small things when dating a person, you will find out all that you need to know.
What matters is, knowing what you're going to accept.
Closing Message:
𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 and explore your options. Don’t settle, keep trying towards your future love because settling for less when you know you can have more would be cheating yourself.
𝐁𝐞 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 and quick to move on if things aren’t working.
Nothing will be perfect but what makes finding your soulmate special is finding the one willing to fight and finding the one worth going through obstacles with, to make an everlasting relationship.