Before getting involved with someone, it’s essential to ask ourselves:
What do I want from this?
What am I looking for?
Am I ready to date/be in a relationship?
Does this person meet my standards?
Moving with no real intentions in relationships can be troublesome. There was a time I had to start asking myself what I wanted out of a relationship/connection with someone new. Not knowing where you’re headed in relationships can cause confusion and so forth. Overall, something weak or non-lasting.
It’s ok to meet a person and not want something serious, or if you’re looking to just have fun with no strings attached there’s no crime in that. On the flip side, its major to ask as many questions as you possibly can when you meet someone.
For instance:
Who are they
Where do they come from (background)
When was their last relationship
What are their goals and beliefs, etc.
What are they looking for
What do they value in life, what’s important to them
How do they view relationships
Do you guys share the same views, morals and outlooks
Too much information is never bad thing, and asking plenty of questions may just save you time.
I had moments where I met a guy and we instantly hit it off, I may have even thought they were the one, but that’s not how it turned out. If I had taken my time to learn who I was with, I would’ve been able to determine if he was someone worth my time.
BE TRANSPARENT
Time is crucial and it’s one of the most valuable things we have in this life. How we spend our time matters.
The more you know yourself, the better you can decide on what it is you want and needing out of a relationship.
It’s important to know your likes & dislikes.
Know your boundaries and what you won’t tolerate. When you figure that out, don't let your boundaries be overstepped.
Closing message:
I’m not a love doctor but I know and have learned that you should always be genuine, straight-forward and take your time when meeting new people.
Not every new connection with the opposite gender has to be intimate or result in a new relationship so soon. It's ok to be friends first and learn as much as you can about a person. Theres no rush.