As a person in the medical field and naturally being curious, I like to interact with my patients and ask questions about what they do for work. It’s fun and I get to learn a lot from different backgrounds, cultures and occupations. I recently had two interesting patient interactions in one week.

The second patient was a divorce lawyer. I asked her similar questions

“Any plans today?

“Yes I have a few meetings to attend to.”

“What do you do?

“Im a lawyer”

“Oh nice! What kind of lawyer?”

“A divorce lawyer”

“If you don’t mind me asking, what would you say is the main reasons for your clientele seeking divorce or getting divorced?”

“Commitment and economics” she replied

“Hmm… Ok, well I have heard people say marriage is a business” I say jokingly, we both laughed.

One being a marriage therapist and I asked her…

“Do you have the day off today?”

“No, I have counseling sessions later on today.”

“Oh, what do you do?” I asked

“I’m a marriage therapist.”

I was immediately intrigued since I was already working on this topic “Why I like being single”. So of course I wasted no time and knew exactly what to ask her next.

“Wow! Interesting… If you don’t mind me asking, from your experience, what would you say is the reason for your patients coming in for therapy?”

She took a settled pause to think and gather her response. She looked back up at me and responded.

“Social media”

I was silently flabbergasted inside because I couldn’t believe a marriage therapist said the same thing I had already been thinking.

Today,

I strongly believe social media is the #1 reason for cheating and disloyalty in relationships. Too many people have access to looking at potential “options” and having communication with them. Of course not everyone cheats but the majority, more than half are not committed.

So, how many relationships fail and why?

The #1 reason is cheating…

But also,

Studies from Forbes.com in which their source from National Library of Medicine stated that:

“In fact, 75% of individuals and couples cited lack of commitment as the reason for their divorce. This was the most common cause of a marriage ending, exceeding even infidelity.”

The biggest component in a relationship is trust. Without trust, there is no relationship

Once trust is broken, everything immediately goes out the window. It’s like breaking a new glass cup and trying to glue it back together. It’ll never be the same glass cup again. - Kareise

Past relationships brought me a lot of anxiety and constant worry due to the lack of trust.

DISCLAIMER: What I’m about to say is not intended to come off as arrogance, boastful or disrespectful but as TRUTH from my personal experience and discussions I've had with other women.

STORY TIME:

I dated a guy for a few weeks up until I did my research on him and found out, this man was married with two infant twins. The crazy thing is, with the amount of time we spent together and the constant communication we had, I honestly would’ve never known if my intuition hadn’t told me to do some digging.

I was extremely turned off by the situation due to him portraying as a “single man” and when I asked him about his situation, he still proceeded to be dishonest. SIDE NOTE: * Ladies, do your research *

STATISTICS: research has found

That speaks for itself. Numbers don’t lie

WHY WE NEED TO KNOW?

We obviously must date first in order to be in a relationship with someone and then potentially marry them after.

I have a few close friends that have been married and are now divorced, and although I don’t base my relationship decisions off their challenges, I do take notes and apply them.

Relationships always have that honeymoon phase but when that wears off, you’ll begin to discover and unravel new information you didn’t know in the honeymoon phase.

Read more on divorce rates on unhappy marriage.info

Everyone is different but as for me, I’m not your typical “lover girl”. I enjoy my freedom, my space, my peace of mind and not having to worry about another person, their whereabouts, what they’re up to etc.

Being in a relationship takes a lot of energy, dedication and work, I believe it requires you to invest your time into another person technically 24/7.

For instance, when in a relationship you’ll have to invest in your partner every day. Outside of oneself, it is another full-time job within. I believe that being in a relationship comes with additional worries on top of the stuff we already deal with as individuals.

I don’t say all this to make relationships sound detrimental or not worth investing into, not at all. But I say all this to keep in mind what comes with being in a relationship and the challenges we will face when doing so.

I ENJOY BEING A SINGLE WOMAN

Relationships can be distractions and for me personally, I don’t want the problems that other people have in their relationships and I don’t want the extra baggage that may come with it.

If my partner is not sent by God and heavy in walking with God, I will stay single until then.

So, Why do I like being single?

Time for myself
Freedom to do anything
Don’t have to answer to anyone
It is less stress and makes life simpler
I don’t have to worry about someone potentially distracting me
It is one less job to be concerned about
I don’t have to worry about being cheated on or lied to
No man can say he is the reason for my possessions (I provide for myself)
I don’t have to look through my partners (likes) on social media or followers list (which 99.9% of women do) if they say they don’t, they’re lying
I can have my space whenever I want and have my apartment all to myself
I don’t have to constantly wonder about the (what ifs) and curiosities of my partner

In summary,

Closing Message:

Being single is a choice, some people are happy in relationships and desire to be in one, while others are happy single and may not need someone to feel complete. Relationships take a lot of work but it doesn’t mean they aren’t worth investing into. I do what works for me and in good faith, you should…

DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU.

𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞,

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